Many people grow up hearing the idea that domestic abuse is something men do to women.
This stereotype is common, but it is not true.
Domestic abuse can happen in any type of relationship.
Anyone can experience it, and anyone can cause it.
Domestic abuse is not limited to one gender #
Domestic abuse is about power, control, and harm.
These behaviours are not linked to one gender.
Abusers can be:
- Male
- Female
- Non-binary
- Trans
- Any gender identity
Victims and survivors can also be any gender.
Abuse can happen in:
- Heterosexual relationships
- Same-sex relationships
- Relationships between non-binary people
- Teen relationships
- Casual relationships
- Long-term partnerships
Abuse affects people from all backgrounds, ages, and identities.
Why the stereotype is harmful #
When people believe only men can be abusive, it can:
- Stop victims of other genders from getting help
- Make survivors feel unheard or disbelieved
- Make people think their experience “doesn’t count”
- Hide abuse happening in same-sex or non-binary relationships
- Make some victims feel ashamed or confused
Everyone deserves support, no matter their gender.
What domestic abuse can look like #
Domestic abuse can include:
- Control
- Threats
- Emotional harm
- Physical violence
- Sexual pressure or coercion
- Monitoring someone’s phone or social media
- Isolation from friends and family
- Financial control
- Jealous or possessive behaviour
These can be used by anyone, towards anyone.
Abuse is about behaviour, not gender.
What to do if you’re worried #
If you think you or someone you know is experiencing abuse, pay attention to what’s happening, not who is doing it.
You can:
- Talk to a safe adult
- Reach out to a trusted friend
- Contact support services
- Look for online advice for all genders
It’s okay to ask for help.
You deserve to feel safe and supported.
Key things to remember #
- Domestic abuse is not caused by one gender
- Anyone can be an abuser
- Anyone can be a victim
- Abuse can happen in all types of relationships
- Stereotypes can stop people from getting help
- Your experience matters, whatever your gender
Everyone deserves safety, respect, and support.
Nobody should feel alone in what they’re going through.
